Veteran Ron with his wife and an Admiral Nurse

How we support veterans with dementia

When Ron had to give up working at Jaguar Land Rover due to a rare form of dementia it was a difficult time. Find out how we supported Ron and his wife.

In 2007 Ron started to display erratic and obsessive behaviour that was completely out of character with his personality. When angry, he was unremorseful for his actions; he lost his motivation to perform everyday tasks.

Over the next few years he suffered severe migraines, depression and his compassion for his loved ones was becoming more absent.

It wasn’t until two years later that Ron was diagnosed with Cadasil syndrome, a rare form of dementia.

Cadasil is a genetic type of dementia, caused by a mutation of genes and it affects the frontal lobe part of the brain.

After going through Ron’s history it is clear that he has inherited the illness from previous generations.

The syndrome is so rare that the couple attend a research project with a top neurologist at Addenbrook’s Hospital in Cambridgeshire.

Ron during his time in the Territorial Army

Reaching out for help

Ron had previously served in the Territory Army 23 Regiment so Loraine, his partner of over 25 years, was able to reach out to RBL for support and advice.

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Last year our Admiral Nurses carried out 10,385 home visits, supporting people who care for a family member with dementia.
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This past year has been especially difficult for Ron as he has been going through the process of early retirement due to ill health.

This has not only affected Ron but has also been a trial for Loraine, both emotionally and psychologically.

Fortunately, we were able to assign an Admiral Nurse, Helen Buckley, to help both Ron and Loraine.

Veteran Ron with his wife and an Admiral Nurse
Admiral Nurse Helen Buckley (centre), with Ron and Loraine

Helen has supported them by acting as an advocate for Ron and Loraine during this difficult time: attending appointments with Ron’s employer so they understand the physical and mental effects of his illness.

Ron says: “It’s been hard to finish work after so many years and adapt to life at home with Loraine now being the one to take care of me and the family.

I get frustrated at the fact I have limited motivation to do anything and as a result the effects of this, such as the weight gain, means that it’s had a major impact on family life and how I react to certain situation.

Having an Admiral Nurse visit has helped me understand what’s happening. Ron

Although Ron is the one with the diagnosis, his dementia has affected his relationship with Loraine greatly. She has had to also come to terms with Ron’s early retirement and cope with his changing personality.

She’s seen the man she loves lose his compassion, affection and rationalisation.

The Admiral Nurse Service has helped Loraine to understand the effects of dementia, develop coping mechanisms and, most importantly, gives her someone to talk to about how she’s feeling.

As well as caring for Ron, Loraine also works two days a week so she has some time just for her.

She also cares for her two grandchildren who live with them. At times Ron has been disinhibited in what he says to them and there have been many occasions where Loraine has had to comfort their grandchildren due to this factor.

When Helen made her first visit Loraine was experiencing carer stress and anxiety. Although Loraine had knowledge of Ron’s condition, having the information did not help her when dealing with his behaviours.

Helen taught Loraine coping mechanisms so she could avoid confrontation and identify signs and symptoms which were physical health related rather than dementia condition related.

Loraine: “I do find myself questioning what behaviour is Ron, what is the depression and what is the dementia, or if he simply at some points testing and pushing me to my limits.

Helen has helped me to understand how to cope with all the questions I have Loraine

“I have my ups and downs and I do wish that I sometimes had a big banner to tell people why Ron acts the way he does - on the outside he looks healthy and normal.

“Helen has allowed me to express myself and this sort of support has been essential in helping me cope with not only Ron’s changing personality but my own. I’ve become angry with the situation and at times reacting with spiteful comments to counteract Ron.

“However, I’m not alone, Helen has been there at the end of the phone and on visits to help us both and I look forward to her coming, as she’s not only a support for the dementia, but she’s also a great friend.”

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